I learned to say NO! – Julzy May

Categories: Business, Inspiration
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Meet Julzy May

Julzy May is also known as Sunny.Life.Coach

She is a Self-Love and Mindset Coach who helps women reach their full potential by magnifying their mindset.

I found my passion for self-love and mindset when I was going through a tough time myself.

I was in a position where I was stuck in the daily 9-5, people pleasing and putting everybody else’s needs above my own.

At first I thought I was depressed so I wanted to study counselling to “fix” myself. Although my counselling qualification gave me the tools to communicate effectively, It wasn’t until I started learning about boundaries that the penny started to drop.

I needed to learn to say NO! Acknowledging that I needed to say no, indicates that I had experienced my first mindset shift.

In fact, saying no was the first boundary I had set and I still teach my clients to say no at the very start of our journey together.

Once my clients are able to say no, they feel so empowered and often start saying “no” left right and centre because now they are in control of their narrative.

I had no idea that learning to say “no” would be the very start of my mindset journey.

I truely believe that the foundation of a positive mindset is self-love and the root of self-love is respecting your own boundaries. Women all over the word will benefit from looking inwards, setting and implementing their boundaries.

For years, I have served as a valuable source to those seeking inspiration, help, or a shoulder to lean on. I finally decided to own that role and be intentional about it. I created Sunny.Life.Coach with a mission to assist others with debunking what goes on their mind while promoting a positive mindset.

As an successful entrepreneur please share your view point if you believe that entrepreneurs are born or made?

I believe that entrepreneurs are made, there is not one trait that entails entrepreneurship anybody can start a business.

In order to be a successful entrepreneur you need to have a motivated mindset, dedication and strong communication skills which can be easily learnt.

Entrepreneurship does come with many challenges which will often means that you have to be able to adapt to each situation accordingly.

Successful entrepreneurs are just people who have made good business decisions throughout their life.

Nelson Mandela once quoted – ‘I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.’

What has been one fear you have overcome?

In business one fear I had is failure. I have often wanted to try things but would get worried the project will be a failure which in reality was holding me back.

I have managed to overcome this fear by re-wording my negative self talk.

When these fear or failure self talk seems to arise. I ask myself “what is the worst that can happen?” and then I also reframe that question as ask myself “what is the best thing that can happen?”

Most times the potential positives out weight the negatives which motivates me to give it ago anyway.

Tell us what the word “empower” means to you?

Empowerment is what you feel when you feel in control of your life and you are living it on your own terms.

Now that doesn’t mean that you can’t seek out support because sometimes you do need help from others.

Empowered is just what you feel when you are doing the activity because you have a strong desire to do so as opposed to doing it for the sake of people pleasing.

Empowerment comes from being able to identify your wants and needs and saying no to everything that is not that!

You’re also able to empower yourself when you give yourself permission to something, for example fail, succeed or even say no.

What has been one of the biggest business ideas you have had and how did you have the courage to implement it?

I’m qualified as a counsellor but my biggest business idea has been to stray away from traditional counselling and go into Self-Love and Mindset Coaching.

Many counsellors will tell you that what I’m doing is wrong but I had the confidence to go ahead with it anyway because there is a strong demand for coaching nowadays given the current climate.

Since Covid more and more people are spending more time with themselves and are realising that they don’t even know who they are .. aside from their job or being a mum.

If people are requesting a service or product ideas, my only advice is to tell you to go ahead with it because the demand is already there.

Running your own business can be scary. Success requires moments of courage to push through to the next level, please tell us one of the moments you have had to push through to take your business to the next level?

To take my business to the next level I created an online course. The course is self-paced and is available for purchase on my website.

While this is a product that my clients were requesting I lacked the self-confidence to push through and pull it off.

It did take some re-wiring of my negative thinking but in the end I had to remember, this is what my clients are asking for which gave me the courage to continue.

Tell us what attributes you feel make a good leader in business today?

In the world today, business is all about relationship building. For that reason a good leader today needs to have strong communication skills and also the ability to empathise with their team and clients.

Business is moving away from the hard sell, relationship building is key.

What is your favourite quote about empowerment?

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”

-Eleanor Roosevelt

What advice would you give to anyone wanting to start their own business?

My advice would be to just start. So may people are waiting for the right time to start a business but in all honestly there will never be a right time, there will always be excuses.

So many learning curves will come your way and you might as well tackle them now rather than later.

What would be one (1) question you would you ask the person who most inspires you? Also share with us about this person and why they inspire you?

Liz Murray who is an American Psychologist. She inspires me because she was the daughter of parents who were addicted to drugs she also became homeless at the age of 15.

However despite her limitations she still managed to push through and graduated as a Harvard University student.

If I could ask her one question I’d ask her about the one thought that triggered her change of mindset. She would know!

She is a great example as to why mindset matters.

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